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Post by ericfromnj on Jan 30, 2017 17:16:24 GMT -8
Damn, JiB.
You were always my "have an adult conversation" man on these podcasts. Now it's all going "STOMP HIM! STOMP HIM GOOD!!!"
You need a hug?
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Post by uncommonman on Jan 31, 2017 5:14:20 GMT -8
Did anyone say combine harvester?
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Post by OFTHEHILLPEOPLE on Jan 31, 2017 6:41:42 GMT -8
Damn, JiB. You were always my "have an adult conversation" man on these podcasts. Now it's all going "STOMP HIM! STOMP HIM GOOD!!!" You need a hug? To be fair the guy sounds like a complete control freak. Stopping the game for thirty minutes to hash out how something would work and scrolling through forum posts to find rulings mid-game is a dick move. The adult conversation should definitely happen, but I see him crossing his arms and jiggling his unshaven neckbeard in disagreement.
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Post by griever789 on Jan 31, 2017 7:08:53 GMT -8
I don't like to make conclusions on what that person is like since we don't have all the information to make a judgement. Remember that people are generally biased in there perceptions.
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Post by uselesstriviaman on Jan 31, 2017 7:43:15 GMT -8
The guy might be a control freak asshole, but he might also be simply unaware of his asshole-ish behavior.
As a former unaware asshole myself, I can say that someone pointing out the problem got through my thick skull. Eventually.
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Favorite Species of Monkey: 1970's NTV, dubbed by the BBC (though The Water Margin beats it)
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Post by fredrix on Jan 31, 2017 9:10:42 GMT -8
Yeah, admittedly he sounds like a dick, but we're hearing just one person's opinion of him. And even she said that outside this session "he's a great guy". He might THINK he's being helpful, explaining things to a newbie GM on her first time out. But Stu's advice stands: she should tell him that he's not helping her, AND also not letting have fun.
I'm going to call out Kimi's advice too, it's best if she handles this direct - going though your bf/his best mate does nothing but spread the meme of the "manipulative girlfriend ruins the band".
One last thought, her bf begged her to have a go GMing, which suggests that his mate prefers not to GM. If he has GMing wisdom to offer, he should GET BEHIND THE SCREEN OR SHUT THE FUCK UP.
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Post by jazzisblues on Feb 1, 2017 11:21:35 GMT -8
Damn, JiB. You were always my "have an adult conversation" man on these podcasts. Now it's all going "STOMP HIM! STOMP HIM GOOD!!!" You need a hug? Somebody must have pulled my string because boy was I chatty last Friday night. Very sorry everyone. Will make sure to moderate that in the future. There was something about that story that really set me off. I think it was because she was a first time gm and here's a guy stomping all over her fun. It sounded to me like bullying, and I have very little patience for bullying. Cheers, JiB
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Post by jazzisblues on Feb 1, 2017 11:25:15 GMT -8
It's very easy for us to sit on the cast, or here in the forums and pronounce judgement. Obviously I'm as guilty of that as anyone. It's also very easy to react emotionally to something particularly when something hits one of our triggers. For me, one of them is bullies. I don't like bullies and have no patience for them or the practice.
So, here and now let me please apologize for my rhetoric and vitriol. I don't know this guy, and it may very well be that he just needs someone to say, "Hey, dude chill, it's not helping," or some such.
Cheers,
JiB
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Post by jimto on Feb 1, 2017 12:29:50 GMT -8
I actually am in total agreement with JiB on this one. And I really don't care for Kimi's advice of going though her husband to get to the asshole player. If you're the GM, you need to handle it.
And while the guy needs a stomping, first time GM or not, once that guy grabbed someone else's character sheet, girlfriend or not, play stops until he gives it back. People play their own characters. Period.
Random bits brought up my things mentioned by our hosts:
- I started listening when the number of available shows was in single digits. And thankfully episode 000 was Stu by himself as it got me through the first few rocky episodes. The 000 episode gave me hope it would tighten up later on.
- I got my first full-on, projectile baby puke a week or two ago. I just tried to think of it as a warm, baby formula shower.
- I did get a one-shot set up this month with part of my old group and some experienced roleplayers. Hopefully it will not result in a horror story. If not, I might try to make it a once every 4-6 week thing.
- My favorite Iowa con, Gamicon, got moved to the city where my In-laws live. I was able to get my work duties shifted to a different weekend so the wife and I are packing up the kid and heading over. (My in-laws are cool so I don't mind.) I will attend the con at least 2 of the 3 days. Finally, some gaming goodness.
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Post by Probie Tim on Feb 1, 2017 12:58:05 GMT -8
I may have to jump forward a few episodes (I'm a bit behind) to see what all the hub-bub is about.
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Post by ericfromnj on Feb 1, 2017 13:16:38 GMT -8
I don't agree with Kimi's advice but it sounded rather tongue in cheek when presented.
I agree with JiB's typical stance on the subject. Adult conversation.
And JiB your reaction doesn't mean we want you to talk less or anything like that it was more of a "damn you ok?" Type of situation.
I can see where bullies would set people off and I can understand that.
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Post by ayslyn on Feb 1, 2017 20:53:12 GMT -8
I may have to jump forward a few episodes (I'm a bit behind) to see what all the hub-bub is about. I feel your pain. I was hospitalized at the beginning of December, and recovering until today (my first day back at work), so I haven't been able to listen to the cast... I'm up to 09 so far.
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Post by ericfromnj on Feb 1, 2017 21:00:02 GMT -8
I may have to jump forward a few episodes (I'm a bit behind) to see what all the hub-bub is about. I feel your pain. I was hospitalized at the beginning of December, and recovering until today (my first day back at work), so I haven't been able to listen to the cast... I'm up to 09 so far. Holy fuck. Are *you* OK?
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Post by SavageCheerleader on Feb 2, 2017 3:16:19 GMT -8
The argumentative player. Holy shit, he is a prime example of nerds who think they are so fucking smart yet have never fired a gun, camped outside, fired a bow, went skiing, hunted, etc. The shit is not like a video game.
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Post by ericfromnj on Feb 2, 2017 4:36:05 GMT -8
The argumentative player. Holy shit, he is a prime example of nerds who think they are so fucking smart yet have never fired a gun, camped outside, fired a bow, went skiing, hunted, etc. The shit is not like a video game. Yeah. LARPers are the nerds who get to do most of that shit!
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