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Post by Grog on Dec 12, 2013 11:08:28 GMT -8
I marked this urgent because "a friend of mine" is in this position and doesnt want to continue on his passive-aggressive path if he can avoid it. There has been a lot of talk about how to know if your gm/players suck. we all know the warning signs. There have been several discussions about how to get rid of the one bad apple. But what do you do when you realize that your whole group sucks and its time to move on?
I suppose if you never want to see those people again its easy. But what if its not that simple. What if your kids play with their kids and there is a tradition of holiday parties with your respective families? What if your spouse works with most of them? What if you actually like them as people just not as gamers? Hypothetically, of course.
This assumes that the easier courses of action such as talking about feelings and angry makeup "sessions" have already been attempted. I'm wondering about once the decision has been made. Is there a better way than passive-aggressively missing sessions for a while before claiming a "full schedule"? "My friend" is thinking about doing this until he can blame a heavier night school course load as his excuse.
I would love to hear this discussed on the cast but I suppose off air would be acceptable too.
Grog
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Post by guitarspider on Dec 12, 2013 11:21:21 GMT -8
Why is "Guys, it's me, not you, I feel like I need a break right now to focus on other stuff" not an acceptable course of action?
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Post by sbloyd on Dec 12, 2013 11:55:22 GMT -8
Yeah.
"I'm just not feeling up to gaming right now, I need to take a break and recharge my batteries."
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Post by jughead5187 on Dec 12, 2013 12:00:55 GMT -8
"guys life is hitting me hard right now and i wont be able to game for a while"
then if "your friend" truly does not like the group... never call them back to join. after a few months they will have moved on completely anyway.
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Post by Grog on Dec 13, 2013 10:18:26 GMT -8
what if the friend is in another group already
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Post by tomes on Dec 13, 2013 12:07:00 GMT -8
In my case I only have a limited amount of time / week for gaming due to competing "priorities" (work, family, kids, etc.)... i.e. time for one game. He/she can just say that this is the one game they are playing right now, but later may have time for another, yada yada yada...
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Post by Forresst on Dec 13, 2013 12:51:11 GMT -8
How about... "hey guys, I'm just not feeling this lately. Hate to cut and run but I'm gonna anyway. Got things to do son!"
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Post by maxinstuff on Dec 13, 2013 14:17:06 GMT -8
It's just a game.... Your friend should just tell them they need a change and are going to play something different for a while.
This isn't like getting a divorce, they don't take half of their stuff or anything. Just retire the current character and move on.
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Post by Kainguru on Dec 14, 2013 13:16:36 GMT -8
Your friend should explain that things have, well, they've changed for him. He's spent along time thinking how best to come out of the gaming closet and admit preferring a different flavour of game now. He understands that his group might feel let down but he'd be doing them a disservice by pretending to want to continuing gaming the same way . . . and that, in all honesty he has always felt this way. Having found the courage to accept himself who he really is he hopes his old gaming group will not judge him for his gaming choices and support him in his pursuit of these new gaming endeavors Aaron
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Post by Grog on Dec 15, 2013 10:29:14 GMT -8
Are you suggesting that my friend might be a closeted hippy-gamer?
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Post by Kainguru on Dec 15, 2013 10:46:28 GMT -8
Are you suggesting that my friend might be a closeted hippy-gamer? Lol. mmmmm. Possibly? . . . well yeah (cause deep down we all have an inner hippy waiting to break free and not wash their feet) Aaron
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Post by Grog on Dec 15, 2013 10:50:41 GMT -8
I've always referred to that tendency as "prone to go barefoot."
You're definitely right, but I'm also a rules monkey in a way that was the final nail in the coffin for this group.
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