horror stories in mixed company Aug 29, 2018 23:13:24 GMT -8
Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2018 23:13:24 GMT -8
Because someone asked you to?
Aug 22, 2018 22:30:16 GMT -8 @stevensw said:
Why? It is a noun.
For example, I ask people to call me "Tappy" on the podcast. You could reply with "why? That isn't your name". While you are technically correct that it isn't my actual name, just as female can technically be used as a noun, I asked you to do so. If you refuse, that is your prerogative, but it isn't difficult or any skin off your back to call someone by a different name. Doing something like that because someone asks you to is polite, and refusing to is rather impolite. Now, you may be choosing to be impolite here on purpose, I don't know exactly why you are refusing a simple and easy to follow request from a fellow HJ listener. But when someone asks you to please refer to them in a certain way, I'm not sure why you wouldn't, unless it is intentionally derogatory or impolite to you (like, "call me 'master'" of some bullshit like that).
Which would be fine except that it isn't just about them, it's about a whole group of people. The term specified is not in fact any better than any other term and is easily used in an abusive fashion, as was pointed out in an article I found based on a search they sent me (first page too). This isn't a case of someone wishing to specify a preferred pronoun or the like. It's not as if we somehow misgendered all women when we called them female and we had to be corrected because they are infact males and wish to be called "Sir".
This isn't a matter of respect, it's a matter of control. I won't allow my right to choose words to be subsumed by people who seem to change their mind constantly. I'm not saying EricaOdd does, but that it happens in general. There seems to be no correct answer, and I'm tired of being vilified for trying. No offense was intended. If someone read some kind of malice in my words, well I can't really help that. If someone can present to me a good reason why I should change, I'm more than willing. Do bear in mind that any reason given doesn't necessarily constitute a good one.